Grief Support from Kays-Ponger & Uselton
Funeral Homes & Cremation Services
For everyone experiencing loss — from caregivers of the chronically ill to friends and family members — grief may become a difficult burden to bear.
Some Myths about Grief
- MYTH: If you are emotional, you are weak.
Feeling sad, frightened, lonely, or crying are normal reactions to personal loss, not an indicator of weakness. Showing your honest feelings can help you and others accept your grief appropriately and realistically, opening the door to true healing.
- MYTH: If you don’t cry, you are cold and unfeeling.
Crying is both normal and appropriate at a time of grief or loss, but it is not the only acceptable response. There are many ways to express these feelings of pain and loss.
- MYTH: You should grieve for a full year.
It may be that your grief lasts a year, as you experience all the seasons and anniversaries associated with your lost loved one. However, there is no set time frame for this process grief is personal and manageable, varying in time and intensity from person to person. In addition, the pain of grief may surface in waves: bearable for long periods then suddenly overwhelming when exposed to an emotional trigger. Knowing this can be of comfort when you are surprised by an intense feeling of pain or loss.
- MYTH: Ignore it and “move on” — the pain will eventually go away.
While this stoic approach was popular in an era where help for grief was unavailable, today we know that trying to ignore or suppress your pain makes it worse and last longer. To heal from your loss and ultimately put it to rest, it is critical to face your grief. This is best done with an experienced professional in the area of grief and healing.
During a lengthy illness, following the funeral, or sometimes long after the death of a loved one, grief may become more than you are able or willing to handle. Our grief support experts are available to talk with you, advise you, or even refer you to appropriate helping professionals.
Contact our grief support professionals at any time during your grieving process, to discuss your loss experience and receive compassion and guidance. In addition, our Grief Library contains a wealth of information about the experience of grief and the process of healing, offering comfort and resources from the convenience of your home computer.