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6 boxes are all that is left of my husband. One filled with his socks, another with his uniforms, and another with every card or photo he had received. Three more contain his books, sheets, and other military effects.
I remember when the boxes arrived, I sat there so anxious to see what was left of my baby. Opening each one I had no clue what I would see. Cautiously, I lifted the lid of the hard black containers.
There are the cards I wrote him, there are the movies he’d watch every night, there are the photos of me he had hanging next to his bed………there is the only thing left of my husband’s existence while in Iraq.
I remember opening up his laptop to find an snapshot of me I never knew he liked. There was the bear that had the personal message I had recorded telling him I can’t wait to see him come home and be together again. There were all the things I had sent, all the memories on film we had captured, all the literature he adored reading, now with no reader.
I forgot all that he had accumulated over his 8 months over there. Due to that fact, many items were so heartwarming but always with an aftertaste of anger.
I remember going through his clothes and immediately putting them to my nose……detergent. ‘I’ll try another shirt or maybe his socks!’ …….detergent. The fact that they had washed all of his clothing made me so infuriated! Let me have one last breath of his smell. The smell I was unable to be without for 8 months…..and now forever.
Some of Michael’s things I pulled out right away, others are still sitting in those looming boxes sitting in my garage. Every now in then I’ll open them to get a small inhale from his pillow that they DIDN’T wash, or go for a search for some hidden letter he may have written in the case he would die.
I never found the letter, I never got my husband to come home, and all I am left with are our memories, a few items of meaning and………6 black boxes.
“When it come to the time when I am old and faded, do not fly me in disrepair, rather retire me from my duties only to replace me with a new flag so that I may continue to symbolize our country.”
We have partnered with local Veteran’s groups to collect retired flags and cremate them in the most dignified manner, with a veteran. This is done with honor as part of our commitment to the men and women who fought under the flag of our country. YOU MAY DROP OFF RETIRED FLAGS AT ANY KAYS-PONGER & USELTON OR LEMON BAY FUNERAL HOME LOCATIONS OR GULF PINES MEMORIAL PARK.
American Legion Post 113 in Rotonda is collecting used golf clubs for the Amputee Veterans of America Support Team. They will be used in a rehabilitation program.
Please donate to a great cause and drop off any golf clubs you are not using at any of our locations by February 15th.
Slain troop’s dog lies by casket during funeral service
Source: Navy SEAL’s Dog Mourns Master | NBC San Diego
The dog of slain U.S. Navy SEAL Jon Tumilson refused to leave his side during his funeral on Friday.
This heartbreaking photo taken by Tumilson’s cousin, Lisa Pembleton, shows the SEAL’s dog Hawkeye lying by the casket.
Pembleton wrote on Facebook that Hawkeye was Tumilson’s loyal pet who wouldn’t leave his master’s side during the funeral in Rockford, Iowa.
“I felt compelled to take one photo to share with family members that couldn’t make it or couldn’t see what I could from the aisle,” Pembleton wrote.
Tumilson lived in San Diego for eight years before becoming a member of SEAL Team 6.
A memorial fund has been set up in his honor and donations can be sent to Frogman 238 Memorial Fund at:
First Security Bank and Trust
201 West Main Ave.
Rockford, IA 50468